For years I told myself the culture on my team was just banter. We were close, we worked hard and the jokes were part of it. Then a quiet member of the team resigned and told me in her exit conversation that she had dreaded coming to work. I had laughed along with...

I am neurodivergent and I process things differently. In one team that was treated as a problem rather than a strength. I was talked over in meetings, left off invites and told I was hard work. I had my resignation letter drafted. What kept me was a lead in another...

In my first security role I asked what I thought was a basic question in a team channel. The reply was a screenshot of my message with a laughing emoji, shared to a wider group. After that I stopped asking. I would spend hours stuck on things I could have solved in...